Hitting on a Chinese Girl in Chinese!

So, there’s a Chinese girl you have in mind that you want to attract, or you want to have a few tricks up your sleeve should the opportunity present itself. That’s great, now firstly you should understand something with Chinese girls, it’s a rarity for them to find a guy who can even say one word of Chinese, let alone two or three! That being the case, once you have established conversation status with her you can try them out. Let’s look at a few simple ones:

1. Wo zhen xi huan nide yifu
I really like your clothes (i.e. you look good in them)
2. Wo jiu de ni shi hao de ren
I feel/think you are a good person.
3. Wo hen gao xin ren shi ni!
I’m so happy to know you.
Now, at this point I should explain something to you as you may think I’m nuts, but, in English those above lines sound terrible, however, in Chinese they sound completely different! Having lived in China for eight years and being able to speak Mandarin, I can tell you they have a completely different effect!
Let’s briefly look at each one in order: 
1. This is really a good one I have often used; every woman wants to feel like she looks good. With a Chinese girls this is especially so! This line gets them really smiling.
2. Saying you think she’s a good person (because of her character) suggests to her, you are also a good person, which is why you can recognize the trait in her; you are building trust.
3. ‘Know you’ in Chinese relates to now, and to tomorrow, next year and so on. This tells her that you are planning to be around for a long time. This is good, this shows her, without you coming on too strong, that you have the kind of character she is looking for, and that you are not ‘Mr. Fly-by-night’.
The Chinese language has really formed the mind of Chinese females to a great degree, understanding the language can be a sure-fire door opener, one that shouldn’t be underestimated. You don’t have to master the language. Simply have a few winning phrases to throw down every now and then.
Just remember, Asian girls are very different from western ones, it’s always good to be at the top of her list instead of at the bottom. Acting like a normal western guy, in most cases, will put you firmly at the bottom!
All the best,
Sam Reeves

Sam C Reeves has lived in Asia for over ten years. If you would like to know more about Hitting on Chinese Girls Go To and check out ‘Killer Chinese Pick-Up Phrases‘ bonus!

December 22, 2015